My 3 Proven Tips for Mind-Blowing Orgasms
I’m obsessed with orgasms. Why? Because we all deserve to have orgasms that range from delicious to waking up the neighbors 3 blocks down.
And here’s the myth I am here to dispel…these types of orgasms don’t naturally come for everyone! So if you haven’t had a mind-blowing orgasm, then I’m here to help you with your practice to get you there!
Everyone will be aroused differently, whether you have a penis or a vagina. And each person will move through the sexual response cycle differently (desire/libido → arousal/excitement →orgasm → resolution).
Some stages may be totally nonexistent or maybe they are in a different order. Regardless of that, there are a few tricks up my sleeve to get you faster and better into the orgasm stage!
Have no fear of sex products. They are your teammates, not your nemesis in bed. For example, the OHNUT is a bunch of stretchy rings that fit snug onto the base of a penis or any object that goes into the vagina. It acts like a bumper for the penis/object to prevent deep thrusting pain.
Penis rings or cock rings placed at the base of the penis, and sometimes around the testicles, are also known to restrict blood flow from an erect penis for a stronger, longer erection - because sometimes it takes some time for an orgasm! My favourite toys are the clitoral vibrators and air pulsing clitoral stimulators, which are great for the extra “umph” during foreplay or even during penetration. If you haven’t used an air pulsing clitoral stimulator, you’re in for a slam dunk. The head of the stimulator creates sonic air pulses that use air pressure to suck and vibrate the clitoris. Don’t forget couples toys too!
2. Be the expert of your own body. Before you get into some sexy time with another human, it’s very important to explore and become comfortable with your own body. By doing this, you can understand what parts of your body are sensitive to touch and can easily be aroused. Then, you can communicate with your partner where they need to move their attention to ramp up your excitement level!
Also, ask your shy partner some questions such as “what parts of your body can I touch that excites you?” “how do you like to be touched?” instead of a simple question like what turns you on or what do you like? Remember - arousal/excitement is not just touch. All senses can be stimulated including, smell, visual and sexy talk.
3. Know the current state of your pelvic floor muscles (by seeing a pelvic floor physiotherapist). If you have a healthy and fit pelvic floor, do some rhythmical Kegels when you feel aroused to increase the blood flow to the vagina or penis. But most importantly, know how to do a proper Kegel - most people don’t and that’s OK. Imagine a ping pong ball inside your vagina and give it a gentle squeeze (don’t kill the ping pong ball) and lift it UP towards your head! CAUTION: don’t do a Kegel though just because you read this. Make sure you see a pelvic floor physiotherapist to get an assessment whether Kegels is the right exercise for you or not. What the hell, come see me!
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